"My plan was never to get married. I was going to be an art monster instead. Women almost never become art monsters because art monsters only concern themselves with art, never mundane things. Nabokov didn’t even fold his own umbrella. Vera licked his stamps for him."
Jenny Offill Dept. of Speculation
from Koa Beck’s article "The Legend of Vera Nabokov," The Atlantic
On why every writer needs a Vera. It somewhat disturbs me that the article concludes with the following, “Marrying a Vera might not be possible,” Weiner concludes. “Hiring one, though—maybe that’s the new, politically correct dream.”
Gender parity and equitable partnership for a select few achieved by the sacrifice of others?
A few weeks ago my former landlord hit the headlines in NYC because he was kidnapped and murdered. Here’s what I wrote about it. (In Swedish)
"“Imagine if it were your wife/daughter/mother.” Yes, this phrase is almost reflexively brought up when discussing rape, other forms of gendered violence, abortion–really, anything that affects primarily women. But try to picture a woman being call upon to do the inverse: “Imagine if it were your husband/son/father.” It rarely happens.”"
– Maya Dusenbery, feministing
Yes. Why on earth should boys not be taught to simply put themselves in another person’s shoes, as opposed to the once-removed female relative. That line of thinking also obscures the fact that sexual violence can and does happen to boys too.
(I’ve also always disliked the wife/daughter/mother line of arguing because of the gross patriarchal ownership implications.)